Because you now have determined a clear purpose, you need to get rid anything hindering you from living it. You must design a life that supports your goal and commit to the habits that will get you there. For the habit of highly effective people, he lays emphasis that win-win makes things cooperative instead of competitive because both parties are mutually benefited. Covey further explained that a win-win attitude has the outcome of three important character traits:maturity, integrity and an abundance mentality. Show class, have pride and display character. If you do, winning takes care of itself.” – Bear Bryant

The winner is the only individual who is truly alive, every time you win, you’re reborn. When you lose, you die a little.” – George Allen We can’t be positive all the time but taking on an optimistic mindset is still worthwhile. Life rewards people who delay gratification and grind away at tasks. Without an optimistic mindset, you’re bound to give up early and often. You need to believe that the journey is worthwhile. It takes more than just thinking positive to adopt an optimistic mindset. It involves avoiding excessive negativity (like what can often be found on the evening news) and surrounding yourself with other optimists. Champions are different than most of us. They dream, they plan and they make decisions on an everyday basis that drive them towards their goal. This book can steer you on the path to living your life in this way. It will illuminate a path that may have never been lit before for you to go down in your life. It will help you to become the best version of yourself and to achieve success in a way that you haven’t before. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else losing – if I win, you lose, if you win, I lose. It’s the mentality of fighting for a larger piece of the pie. But what if both of us could eat some of the pie and be fully satisfied?While there are a myriad of self-help strategiesout there, focusing on mindset is one of the most important.

When it comes to being an adult, it is looking at it with an open perspective. To argue with people and still be friends just because you have different perspectives. But also to take away things you can grow from when someone does prove you wrong. It is about not needing to be right as much as you need and want to grow and expand. Pride keeps you in a bubble. It feels safe and looks safe. But it never allows you to grow and expand and reach your full potential. It may keep you in your comfort zone, but it takes away the joy and positive things that come from taking lifes cuts and bruises. Healing from them and becoming stronger because of them. When you put your “stamp” on things and take ownership of them, you are taking things out of the hands of fate and putting them into your own hands. Success or failure is all on you. Not on the will or whim of others. Solution-Oriented Thinking:Rather than dwelling on problems, focus on finding solutions. Navigate through difficulties and find innovative ways to overcome hurdles on their path to success.

Hopefully you see by now that Waitley’s, “winner” is not defined by the guy who drives the biggest car or who has the biggest bank account. The winner is about much more than that. A Champion Needs – To Visualize Their Success + A Systematic Structure To Get There + The Will Power To Follow Through Habits are a matter of personal responsibility. On a regular, scheduled basis, have a program that asks the questions "what went well?' and "what could be better?" The answers drive agility and improve the regimen and routine of peak performance. "We can use decision-making to choose the habits we want to form, use willpower to get the habit started, then - and this is the best part - we can allow the extraordinary power of habit to take over. At that point, we're free from the need to decide and the need to use willpower." -- Gretchen Rubin

People with a Lose/Win mindset lose not only in their interactions, but also in their own well-being: They tend to suppress a lot of feelings, which can fester and bubble up in anger, resentment, cynicism, and psychosomatic illnesses that can especially affect the respiratory, nervous, and circulatory systems.Recognizing these situations is important to understanding habit 4: think win/win. Lose/Lose: If I Can’t Win, Neither Can You MORE : ‘I just had to keep my mouth shut and put up with it’: What it’s really like to deal with racism in the workplace A few seconds of thoughtful silence that arise between a comment and a response can be vital to the success of a crucial conversation,’ Jill tells us. Having the No Deal option in mind as you go into a negotiation prevents you from forcing a deal that will inevitably bring issues later, potentially hurting the relationship. Win/Win or No Deal shows that you value the relationship more than the negotiation. This is especially useful for families and personal relationships, or early stages of business relationships. Choosing the Right Paradigm There’s a reason stubbornness is not considered a virtue. Inflexible people don’t lead effective lives. The more flexible you are, the more you will succeed. Consider this quote from Thomas Edison:

The idea behind “think win-win,” i.e., habit 4 is to have the courage to seek mutual benefit from all human interactions instead of having winners on the one side and losers on the other.

Get in the Habit of Winning Become a Champion Today! Learn How Champions Set Their Goals, Structure Their Training, and Stay Motivated. A good balance of winning and losing is important. If you just win all the time, you won’t get anything out of it. Having some tough loses can be really important.” – Andrew Shue Prakash Iyer's style is direct and simple. He has touched various aspects of life, with an emphasis on leadership. I asked my 8-year-old son what “winning is not a some-time thing, it’s an all-time thing. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.” Means to him. Habit 4: think win/win is all about finding resolutions. Interactions between people constantly include some sort of negotiation, big or small: Where are we going to dinner? What movie are we going to watch? How much will you sell your product for? How much will you buy it for?One clear distinction Waitley makes between life’s winners and losers is that winners build good habits that help them succeed while losers retain all their bad habits and are content to live a life with fear and regret. It has short, straightforward chapters yet effectively conveys the powerful message through stories. Even without the input of good old Charlie and his “ Tigers Blood”. The term “winning” used in this way seems a little too smug. The sort of thing two overly privileged guys might say while sharing a fist-bump bromance. People who fail are always worried. What if I miss this shot? What if the boss doesn’t like my project? What if I fail to reach my goals? The No Deal option helps you pursue negotiation and will help you to consider that forcing a deal will only result in unwanted problems. Therefore, it is the habit of highly effective people to have no deal rather than having a conflicting deal. Key Takeaways of Habit 4