From the onset, I wasn’t jealous. I was, in fact, proud of John’s endurance, and I credit it all to his training with me. My wife is a wh*re. She cheated on me for several years. We’re in our 40s so maybe almost 2 decades. It’s hard to say. I gave up. She assumed I condoned or let her sleep around with 2 lovers of hers when I couldn’t satisfy her. I actually blamed myself because we became swingers because I wanted to sleep with a blonde woman that swung. I also stupidly thought it would make our sex lives better. It did for her.

My husband and I spent the morning on a private, nude island near Raiatea with a group of swingers, getting full body tans while letting husbands and wives take turns playing with my naked breasts.For the first time on the cruise, I was starting to feel worn out – in the most satisfying way, of course. Does she work, or is she a SAHM. If she is the latter, then she has way too much free time on her hands, and she is obviously using that time to become physical and cheat. I awoke to the glowing, golden hues of a Tahitian sunrise in the best way possible: with my husband’s face buried between my thighs. Like me, his libido was running at full capacity ever since boarding the Luxury Lifestyle Vacations (LLV) cruise through French Polynesia the night prior, and the moment I was awake, we needed to release that pent-up energy.

However, she said swinging with another couple still might be fun if we were discrete enough. She had already set up a date on Friday night with another couple, but she told me we wouldn't have any ** on this first date. So I agreed to go. It would give me time to talk her out of the swinging, or I could hope she decided she wouldn't like it also. As the scenery changed from the endless blue sea to the jade mountains of Bora Bora, we were both so overcome by the beauty that we couldn’t help but go to town on each other. Later, we attended a masturbation workshop, which would be better described as a meditation on self-pleasure. I know people will be judging me about what happened, or tell me my wife does not love me, she does, and I love her. Like I wrote before, my wife gets impulsive, and I have had to talk her out of doing crazy things before, like buying expensive cars, and jewelry. I should have no problem doing it again.Don’t blame yourself for what she did , it’s not your fault it’s all on her. That being said don’t go off on her telling her she’s a bad person and be all holier than thou. She already knows she did wrong even if she is trying to justify it. We settled into the familiar comfort of not having to hide anything; not having to pretend that we define our love with sexual fidelity. In having the opportunity to be ourselves, we were able to truly relax. And that’s what vacations are for, right?

You better read and RE-read Chrome Barracuda's post to you. Women don't want weak, whipped men ... and that is exactly how you are acting. REMEMBER, in a relationship, the one who cares the LEAST has all the power ... and you have ceded ALL power in this relationship to your W. She feels that for the past six+ months that she's been going through the motions and doesn't feel like she loves me the same. "We've lost that spark," she said. But it isn't just emotional, she wants more out of the physical side too. I had to stop her there, because SHE hasn't taken the time to talk to me about any of this. She never made an effort to communicate directly. At home I would be physical with hugs and tender kisses and seductive moves, but she hasn't been. I told her that she is the one who hasn't been trying hard enough. She hasn't been trying to make the relationship work either on an emotional level or physical one. Over time, we also started meeting couples who we felt more in sync with. We call them our regulars, and our relationships with them have developed substantially since we first met. Now, we meet more often for meals and drinks than for play. To Each Their Own We stripped off our costumes, and he went down on me before taking me from behind. Three couples swapped in the space adjacent to us, their sex sounds and moans giving us a thrill that boosted both our orgasms. TuesdayIt was then that John told me about the world of swinging. He explained to me what it was and how it worked. Like most, I was baffled that such a community existed. I started reading up and educating myself about the world of swinging. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t intrigued. I remember coming home one night at three in the morning and seeing he wasn’t home. He had already started going out for paid sex services, but he always came home after and never spent an entire night outside. You are letting her dictate the situation----don't go 3some, or open mge. If she is married then she needs to act married, and that is a 2some. That's what she took vows to do, for the rest of her life.

You are in major denial. Your wife has been screwing at least one other man and putting your health at risk for STD's. She now wants to bring another man to your home to screw her while you watch and or participate and you agreed to this? Are you out of your mind? Your wife wants to party and enjoy the single life. She is married to you with 4 children. My friend she is playing you for a fool. No consequences to her actions equals no motivation to change.

Homeschooling has been her idea all along and I've supported it and help teadh and I've seen the benefits in our children. The second oldest is autistic and I shudder at the thought of sending him to a public school. I've always supported her life outside of the kids. I've encouraged her to find friends. But as another poster said, she didn't find very good ones. Karate was her outlet for finding friends that don't talk about kids, but it led her astray. How she got into it:“I grew up with this idea that there’s not just one person for anyone and that we can enjoy being with multiple people, as well as the idea that you can have sex without having emotion tied to it. My husband knew that I was bi-curious when we met, so on the anniversary of our first date, we decided to explore and went to a swingers club.”