Size matters, but here are some other things to consider when choosing toys to stretch your anus. Material If there’s too much poop in your rectum, shallow penetration will probably be all you can muster. Using a rectal douche to clean out poop in the lower rectum can help. Unless you’ve got carpal tunnel, you don’t need to worry about weight if you’re choosing dilators or dildos. To say you have a lot of options would be an understatement. There are dildos and other anal toys out there with bells and whistles your bum can’t even imagine.

It’s no secret that poop comes out of the anus. Most fecal matter sits higher up in your rectum, but anal play can bring on the urge to poop. If you’re feeling actual pain — like a severe, sharp, or throbbing pain — then slowly pull out. You can try again in a couple of days with a smaller toy or after being sufficiently relaxed. If met with some resistance — which is totally normal — gently remove it, apply lube again, and try again.

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Oil-based lubes generally aren’t recommended because they break down latex, and that’s a major no-no if you’re using condoms or latex gloves on your fingers or toys. Try a hot bath, a massage, or some foreplay to help you get your stretch on. Be generous with the lube

Apply a liberal amount of lube to your finger or toy, as well as around your anal opening. By liberal I mean basting yourself up like you would a turkey on Thanksgiving. Dilators — which you can find online — used for pleasure are similar, though the goal is slightly different, obvs. Thrusting is pushing and pulling your toy in and out over and over, while plugging involves literally plugging your anus with a butt plug and leaving it inside.

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Minor discomfort while you get used to the sensation of being penetrated is to be expected. Adjusting the depth or motion, or even just taking a deep breath, should help. Slow and steady wins the butt play race. Get ready for insertion by lightly pressing your toy against your hole with minimal pressure. Healthline has strict sourcing guidelines and relies on peer-reviewed studies, academic research institutions, and medical associations. We avoid using tertiary references. You can learn more about how we ensure our content is accurate and current by reading our editorial policy.

If you’re planning to go deeper than 3 or 4 inches, you might want to consider an enema to flush any remaining poop from your rectum.

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If you get a bad case of the runs or have an actual bowel movement, then stopping to properly clean yourself up and out is a good idea. Silicone, stainless steel, and borosilicate glass — or Pyrex — are great because they’re nonporous and easy to care for. You’ve gotta love the butt plug and its efficient shape. They generally have narrow tips that gradually widen toward the middle then taper down again. Pooping before play will allow you to go deeper and help you focus on the task at hand. If you’re still pretty shallow, consider a douche Fingers are a good place to start because you can begin with a pinky and work your way up to five fingers, or even an entire hand or fist. You can also use sex toys. Dilator