I actually worry about the tides turning too far in the other direction when it comes to some churches being abusive towards women. If this book is ever mentioned among Christians I know I will make sure to make people aware of its harmful messages.

The chapter opens with an anecdote about a couple where she wouldn’t respond sexually until he met her emotional needs, but he was withdrawing.Women will also complain all day long about the men who choose to become consumers of the visual sex these women are willingly putting out there to be consumed, but they would never complain that women are also at fault for creating such a large and varied supply to be consumed. Although I have been married twice before, compared to the detail in the book I consider myself to be fairly shy. What man is turned on when his wife says, “I am only having sex with you right now so you don’t cheat on me? What do you think happens to a woman’s libido if all she hears is that men need physical release; if you don’t have sex, he’ll be tempted to watch porn or have an affair; and your way of respecting your husband is to say yes, no matter what you feel? The act of knowing how to make love to a woman entails that it is more about them than you if you are a man.

Angry for all the men who have grown up hearing that lust is inevitable and that they can’t relate to women as full people, but will always see them as body parts.There have been sex manuals written from the man's perspective, and there have been sex manuals written from the woman's perspective. No matter how old or young, experienced or not, anyone can achieve levels of fulfillment and satisfaction never before thought possible. Incidentally, if at least 1/4 of women are victims of sexual assault or abuse, and even more are victims of unwanted sexual attention, how do you think framing sex as something that she will never really want, but she must give to him anyway, makes her feel about marriage? Whenever I happen across Christian teaching on sex, I frequently feel like we haven’t come very far.

Then there are women like Herodias and her daughter, Potiphar’s wife, and Delilah who used their sex appeal to do evil. It also has some interesting tips for MECHANICAL methods for sex, but those are few and far between. What do you think happens to men who are told that they have a need for physical release that their wives must provide, and that if they’re not given sex, it’s not men’s fault if they stray? Yet, she is incredibly passive, lying there in a way that makes me feel like sex is something I’m doing TO her rather than experiencing WITH her. And conversely, “Men need to be told to love, because it doesn’t come naturally but showing respect does.When you are in bed with a woman, what you do to her mainly is to make love to her, to make her feel things she may have felt before or before. Love and Respect never includes anything about sex being about a deep spiritual and emotional intimacy and a deep knowing of each other. And don’t most men intuitively know it’s about more than physical release or else sexual rejection wouldn’t be so painful and masturbating in the shower would be equally satisfying?

And am so thankful that my husband has always been so intentional about the mutuality of our sex life. She believes that everyone should make room for love in their lives and encourages couples to work on overcoming their challenges together. Kane is no lawman, but he accepts the badge because he has an old score to settle with the town's chief trouble-maker. For him to reduce sex to just a man needing physical release is just so insulting to men, not just women.

For those that have a hard time visualizing, I think the book would have been better if it had pictures.