When Allie says, “that’s okay,” she doesn’t mean that you should just accept your depraved state and do nothing to lead a better life. You’re Not Enough (And That’s Okay)will help you look at the world and yourself through a new lens, and hopefully one for the better. Through personal testimony and relatable stories from other women struggling to find self-acceptance, Allie breaks down the many reasons why culture’s version of self-love is so toxic and detrimental. While ‘the thief comes only to steal kill and destroy’ in the name of self-love, Jesus came that we may have abundant life through him (John 10:10). his book is about dismantling the lies the toxic culture of self-love has fed us and replacing them with God’s truth.

I would recommend this book to any woman frustrated with the message the world is sending them today. There are also a couple of points I felt like she went a little off on a tangent and I was unsure where she was going. In hyper reaction to what was seen as a culture that degraded women, society tried to find the best way to make us women feel adequate, like goddesses, able to have it all, and be just enough for everyone and ourselves (or, maybe justourselves). His way leads to joy, to peace, to wisdom, to comfort, to steadiness, to purpose – to all the things you’ve been told to look for in yourself but haven’t been able to find. It’s a book about facing reality, coming to grips with what the world is really like, and how to be okay with all that those facts mean.I have listened to her podcast maybe a handful of times, and so far, I have enjoyed most of what she’s had to say. I certainly wish I would have considered some of society’s messages in light of the information I have now back in high school. In a couple of those episodes, she spoke strongly against the culture, and cult, of self-love that currently pervades our society. If you’re looking for more satisfying answers than the one’s society has to offer (which most often leave people feeling selfish, guilty, or victimized), read this book.

He showed us his love by sending Jesus to die for our sins so that we could be forgiven and live forever with him. There are many more similar phrases that could go right up there with the rest, but you get the picture. I don’t think that makes her views and solutions any less a part of reality or any less helpful, but I can see why some people would struggle to accept all of her conclusions.

Though I think all women highschool and up should read it, some will be put off by Allie’s religious, conservative stance. Replace the toxic lies you’ve been believing with biblical wisdom and start fresh – finding your joy, peace, and hope not in yourself, but Jesus. Also, she points out that following the advice of people who push the idea of self-love will only make you miserable, and perhaps even harm you. And who is even more perturbed with the message seemingly Christian influencers like Rachel Hollis, Jen Hatmaker, and Glennon Doyle are sending them today.

I want to encourage people through all my work, and especially through my writing, and to add to their learning.There is a lot wrong with us that we cannot fix, and no self-love book disguised as help can change that. In a world attempting to cover up our guilt, shame, self-centeredness, and longing with the phrase “love thyself,” Allie Beth Stuckey provides a frank and loving insight into why that is not true, and how to find real answers, in her book You’re Not Enough (And That’s Okay).

Instead, she implores us to focus our gaze not on trying to be enough and love ourselves more but on focusing on Jesus and his ‘enough’.