I highly recommend this book to anyone, male or female, who wants to understand either the dynamics of male self-empowerment, or the ways men and women interact and fill unique roles in a relationship.

I knocked one star off because I truly believe there is nothing wrong with putting others above yourself. Robert Glover has dubbed the “Nice Guy Syndrome” trying too hard to please others while neglecting one’s own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. And until you harm someone, you should also do everything within your power to making your dreams come true. When recovering Nice Guys decide they will no longer settle for anything less than good sex, they begin to take responsibility for doing something different.They grow up into perpetual people pleasers placing the mercy of their own internal well being on other people and their opinions of him. He shared that the turning point seemed to be when he made the decision that he didn't care whether they made it together or not. Thus, in addition to trying to please others, caretake, and anticipate needs, Nice Guys avoid conflict like the plague. landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O’Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show.

If you feel like someone is crossing a line, with a joke, at work, or in other situations, be vocal and make it clear that you don’t enjoy their behavior, so it’ll have to change. When they start standing up for themselves, setting boundaries, their wives initially balk, but suddenly find themselves for assured of their husband’s love, more respectful, and more attracted to him.Be assertive and stop acting like you’re the victim; start expressing your feelings and start setting boundaries; don’t treat people and circumstances like problems that need to be fixed: see them as merely people and circumstances.

Thus they are like the perpetual child who does everything just right to try and please "mommy and daddy' so that they will love him. Your life and relationships won’t become better just because you give way too much to maintain them. If nice guys are prone to subtly manipulating others into meeting their needs (ineffectively), then Dr. The universal trait: everything a Nice Guy does or says is at some level calculated to gain someone’s approval or avoid disapproval; and that someone is often a woman.When society became urbanized this took men away from the home and left boys to be raised by their mothers. Images Donate icon An illustration of a heart shape Donate Ellipses icon An illustration of text ellipses.

Glover dealt straight concerning the misperception that being a Nice Guy will certainly obtain you throughout life. Thank you for your amazing book—even if it wasn’t intended for me, I was able to gain so much understanding about my life and men in my life from reading it. It’s in fact rather not logical when you suggest it out, yet I comprehend it’s precisely just how a good deal of men believe as well as act, as a result of the reality that I did. If a Nice Guy’s wife is depressed, angry all the time and has no interest in sex, and if he feels like he’s constantly walking on eggshells trying to make sure he doesn’t do anything to upset her, he should “surrender. The old idea of manliness held that men should be assertive, confident, brave and have the self-assurance to follow their own path without trying to please everyone around them.While kindness is a positive characteristic, seeking validation from others is a toxic trait that should be eliminated at all costs. This self-help book is great for anyone looking to take charge of their life and improve their relationships. Nice Guy is the definitive book for helping men overcome their chronic tendencies to accommodate, acquiesce, and appease their way through life. Glover can teach you how to stop overpleasing people, build a stronger character, and avoid having others take advantage of you.