This stroker attached to a device that lets you set the speed and length of each stroke, so you have full control over your pleasure even while taking a more hands-off approach than usual. One of the most fascinating features of the Handy is that you can sync it up to a porn video using Bluetooth, which is about as close to partnered sex as you can get when you're all alone. If your sex life has come to feel monotonous, sex toys can help you conjure more intense versions of sensations you already enjoy, and help yourself feel more closely connected to your partner. There’s a widespread misconception that sex toys are a thing you use before you meet your partner—or something you use for solo play when they’re out of town. But sex toys aren’t just for single folks, Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland, tells SELF. Pros: Pleasurable texture meant to replicate oral sex; non-realistic appearance; translucent for a better view; hard plastic case for travel and storage; fits a wide range of penises Sex toys do things humans cannot,” agrees Epiphora, a blogger who has been reviewing sex toys professionally for over a decade. “Humans don’t vibrate; humans don’t have penises made of stainless steel.” But that also doesn’t mean that toys are a replacement for, or a threat to, human relationships. Even if you use a fancy stand mixer while baking a cake, you’re still the one who baked that cake—and by the same token, the pleasure and fun of using a sex toy with a partner is often more about the partner than the toy. Pro tip: If you finish first and your partner hasn’t, take the Tor and place it on your middle and ring fingers while you finger her. She’ll likely appreciate the vibrations.

Ease of Use: 3 / 5 | Durability: 4.5 / 5 | Fun Factor: 4.5 / 5 | Features: 3.5 / 5 | Value: 3.5 / 5 | Overall Rating: 3.8 / 5 Pros: Stimulates penis, perineum and balls all at once; can also stimulate your partner during penetrative sex; increases erection strength and sensitivity; four motors for intense vibrations; 16 vibration intensities and eight patterns; can be controlled via the MysteryVibe app Pros: Allows you to penetrate your partner with your balls, potentially creating new and unique sensations for both of you; doesn’t require an erection How to Use: Apply water-based lube to your penis and to the inside of the toy before sliding inside. Beyond putting a new dish on the masturbation menu, a Fleshlight can also potentially help with sexual problems you might be experiencing, like “ death grip syndrome” or premature ejaculation. “Certain patterns of masturbation, particularly manually or with rougher materials, can alter sensitivity over time,” Conger says. “A Fleshlight prevents this from happening, making sure there is no overstimulation or chafing to any part of the penis.” Of course, the best sex toys are no replacement for a doctor’s opinion, especially when it comes to a healthy orgasm. What are the different Fleshlight types?Ease of Use: 3.5 / 5 | Durability: 4 / 5 | Fun Factor: 4 / 5 | Features: 4 / 5 | Value: 3 / 5 | Overall Rating: 3.7 / 5 If oral sex is one of your favorite ways to get off, you'll love this Fleshlight, which is designed to replicate the sensations of a great blowjob. Various parts of its internal texture are designed to feel like soft lips, a tongue, and the tightness of a throat. With a generous helping of lube, this toy almost feels like the real thing—though notably, it doesn't look like the real thing, "which for many users is a plus, offering more discreet storage," says Conger. "And some may find it to be visually more appealing than a flesh-toned toy."

Fleshlight Ice models: Most Fleshlights are opaque, but these models are translucent, so you can see yourself thrusting in and out. A go-to model if you (or your partner) enjoys a visual. If you ask us, the best sex toys on the market today are right up there with fire and the wheel in terms of humanity's greatest inventions. Go ahead, laugh: but what is technology supposed to do besides make our lives easier and more pleasant? And let's be honest, what's more pleasant than a toe-curling orgasm? Pros: Smooth, squishy interior; realistic vulva exterior; hard plastic case for travel and storage; fits a wide range of penises How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the entrance of the toy, the inside of the toy, and your penis before sliding inside. After using, remove the sleeve from its case, rinse it out thoroughly with water, and allow it to dry completely before re-assembling.

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Pros: Rotating balls in shaft for G-spot stimulation; rumbly vibrations; three vibration speeds, seven vibration patterns, and three rotation speeds; arms can be controlled separately; waterproof Pros: Pleasurably textured interior; translucent casing for a better view; open-ended design makes it easier to clean the toy between uses and to combine it with oral sex, handjobs, etc.; more compact and travel-friendly than regular-size Fleshlights; inexpensive A word of warning – don’t be tempted to try alien play just before leaving the house. You could have vaginal muscles like industrial clamps and this stuff would still ooze out. How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the entrance of the toy, the inside of the toy, and your penis before sliding inside. After use, remove the sleeve from the case and rinse it out thoroughly with water. Let it dry completely before re-assembling.