Yes, managing more than one child in the evening when we’re exhausted ourselves is one of the hardest parts of parenting in the early years. Instead of losing control and resorting to punishment of this sort, it’s vital to keep the big picture in mind.

If she wakes in the night go to her, kiss her and remind her it’s time to sleep, pat/rub her back just for a few seconds, and leave before she falls back to sleep. That said, we also feel like he’s come to the realization that getting out of bed is what actually gets us back into his room. Together we’ll create a personalized plan that aligns with your comfort level, as well as your child’s age and personality.When he was 2, I would end up falling asleep in his floor bc he just needed to know that I was there. Don’t speak at all or make eye contact when she’s fussing or trying to get you to respond to her, just sit until she falls asleep.

You celebrate with a glass of wine and go to bed feeling encouraged that what you set out to do is going to change things for the better. Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! I am Not an advocate for spanking to sleep it’s awful this was just limit pushing getting a reaction out of me.

All she ever wanted in life, even at that age, was to be a wife and mother, which she is living now. I really hope you asked this just to have a discussion or something and not bc you want to spank your LO for not sleeping. If they see you doing the exact same thing each time they test the waters, they’ll eventually realize there’s no sense in trying and being sleeping well. Armed with your phone to text her for encouragement, you sit outside his door, waiting for his next move. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products.

To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average.When you act frustrated, resort to yelling, threats or spanking, even though it’s negative attention it’s still attention, and he inherently feels like he’s gained some ground. A “burst” is when a recently sleep trained child gets a wild hair and starts testing his boundaries again. She figured she’d get aroused from being spanked regardless — she had the last couple of times Charlie had spanked her — but the plug just made it more intense as it shifted and jumped with each swat. By the end of our two weeks together your child will be falling asleep unassisted, taking long naps and sleeping through the night consistently.

Having been in a marriage with plenty of spankings for over thirty years, I tried to find spanking stories with loving, wise, gentle husbands, and independent, confident, engaging wives. Of course there will be tears, when his hand smacks against the bareness of your bottom, to leave you with the reddest of cheeks.

When I threaten to leave I go sit outside bedroom door and hold it shut (he gets traumatized if locked or safety knob inside I don’t like that for him). I just dont want to completely ignore her and I dont want her to feel abandoned but I also know that going in isn’t helping. In reality, handing out spankings every night isn’t feasible or sustainable, so it was a rash decision that both parties knew was done in haste. With the correct mindset and expectations, you could have seen through his antics and remained calm, consistent and patient. It's going to be rough, he is going to be upset, but you need to follow through with the punishment.