One note on some strange happenings. A woman goes to hell after being a good devout Muslim because she has "a sharp tongue" and a prostitute goes to heaven because she gave water to a dog once? Seems to me that God's ways are so mysterious as to not really matter, you may or may not get on his good side, and you can't possibly hope to know that before destiny is fulfilled. It is becoming increasingly a social phenomenon that the chastity, piousness and truthfulness are being looked in women only, while men are free to transgress all the limits in meeting their wild desires and surprisingly these are not punishable acts in modern secular society. They can have extra-marital affairs and are easily tolerated by the society while the same is regarded a severely punishable act for women. The quality of patience and truthfulness is sought in women, while men are free to frequent to prostitutes, chase school girls, look for trail marriages. These people are surely disgracing themselves and forfeiting all rights to require chastity of their wives. Islam, major world religion promulgated by the Prophet Muhammad in Arabia in the 7th century ce. The Arabic term islām, literally “surrender,” illuminates the fundamental religious idea of Islam—that the believer (called a Muslim, from the active particle of islām) accepts surrender to the will of Allah (in Arabic, Allāh: God). Allah is viewed as the sole God—creator, sustainer, and restorer of the world. The will of Allah, to which human beings must submit, is made known through the sacred scriptures, the Qurʾān (often spelled Koran in English), which Allah revealed to his messenger, Muhammad. In Islam Muhammad is considered the last of a series of prophets (including Adam, Noah, Abraham, Moses, Solomon, and Jesus), and his message simultaneously consummates and completes the “revelations” attributed to earlier prophets.

A Muslim is cheerful, generous-hearted and keen to make his wife feel happy and allows her to enjoy some innocent kinds of entertainment that please her. The following hadith shows the cheerful nature of Prophet (SAW):Smiling, Anger and Mindfulness in Islam and their Connection to 21st Century Neuroscience (part 1 of 3): What is in a Smile? Ramadan is the ninth month of the Islamic lunar calendar and lasts either 29 or 30 days. During Ramadan, Muslims observe a fast from sunrise to sunset each day, so they wake up early to share food before the sun appears and end it in later in the evening.

Indonesian feminist Julia Suryakusuma introduced the term state ibuism to describe the ideal woman prescribed by Indonesia’s authoritarian Soeharto regime: faithful companions to their husbands, pro-creators of the nation, mothers and educators of their children, home keepers, and useful members of Indonesian society. One of the most distinguishing features of the (ideal) Muslim is his deep faith in Allah, The Exalted, and his conviction that whatever happens in the universe and whatever befalls him, only happens through the will and the decree of Allah. The Muslim is closely connected to Allah, constantly remembers Him, puts his trust in Him and is obedient towards Him. Seems relevant to current issues, right? Where women are heard and not questioned “why are you in the darkness? what clothes are you wearing? etc etc”. There are many more interesting stories here for many different topics, but you should read it yourself. Therefore, the Muslim pays as much attention to his spiritual development as to his physical and intellectual development, in a precisely balanced fashion which does not concentrate on one aspect to the detriment of others. The ideal Muslim character is distinct and balanced. The Muslim is the embodiment of the teachings of the Quran and the‘Sunnah’ (sayings, actions and the approvals of the Prophet Muhammad ). He follows the teachings of the Book of Allah (i.e. Quran) and the example of the Prophet Muhammad in all affairs, relations, and situations – starting with his relationship with his Lord, his own self, his family and the people around him.Retaining its emphasis on an uncompromising monotheism and a strict adherence to certain essential religious practices, the religion taught by Muhammad to a small group of followers spread rapidly through the Middle East to Africa, Europe, the Indian subcontinent, the Malay Peninsula, and China. By the early 21st century there were more than 1.5 billion Muslims worldwide. Although many sectarian movements have arisen within Islam, all Muslims are bound by a common faith and a sense of belonging to a single community. The Muslim is alert and open-minded to the magnificence of Allah. He knows that it is Allah who is in control of the affairs of the universe and of mankind, and He (Allah) Knows all and Witnesses every secret. more loved by God than a weak believer. The Prophet, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, said:

A pious Muslim never ignores the guidance given by the Prophet (SAW) concerning the personality of the woman. He is pious and looks for a wife distinguished by her strong personality and sound characteristics. Such a woman is bound to bring happiness, tranquility and peace of mind to a man. This creates a conductive and secure home where the courageous and intelligent children are raised on the principle of Islam and become the real champions and flag bearers of Islam. Occasionally, husbands must spare some time to help their wives in performing their wifely and motherly duties of taking care of the house and caring for their children. ( The Perfect Istri Salehah, p15) One of the worst characteristics that Islam abhors is hypocrisy, therefore the Muslim can never be a hypocrite; he is frank and open in his words and opinions. The Prophet said: “One of the worst people is a double-faced man, who comes to one group with one face and to another group with a totally different face.” [Al-Bukhari] The Muslim also keeps his body and clothes very clean. He bathes frequently. The Prophet placed a great emphasis on cleanliness and bathing. Cleanliness makes the Muslim more likeable to people. He also takes care of his mouth and teeth. The Muslim never searches for people’s faults or slander their honor. He doesn’t slip into the error of pride, boasting and showing off. He judges fairly, is never unjust (even to those whom he does not like) or biased by his own whims, and avoids suspicion. He does not rejoice in the misfortunes of anyone. He carefully avoids uttering any word of slander, cursing, malicious gossip and foul language.Another common problem facing Muslim homes in our time is that a husband is showing kindness and patience while dealing with people outside home e.g. in business, in office, in friend circle, but at home he is unkind, authoritative and misbehaving. It seems to be printed in the minds of many men that being rude with wife and kids is the ideal way to uphold the control over them. What they fail to realize that best ideal husband was Prophet (SAW) who has always been patient and kind with his wives even though they were arguing with each other in front of him. The Muslim keeps away from drugs and stimulants. He also does not forget to exercise regularly to maintain his physical fitness. It was your responsibility at the time to obey your husband in line with God’s instructions. ( Menjemput Jodoh Impian, p121)

The Muslim, who truly understands the teachings of his religion, is gentle, friendly, cheerful and warm. He mixes with people and gets along with them. He is humble and modest; and does not look down at other people. He is lighthearted and has a sense of humor and does not disdain others. His jokes are distinguished by their legitimate Islamic nature. He is keen to bring happiness to people.It is an effective means of conveying the message of truth to them, and exposing them to its moral values, because people only listen to those whom they like, trust and accept. Fact: The first Muslim to ever recite the call to prayer was Bilal Ibn Rabah, son of an enslaved Abyssinian woman, in the city of Medina in the seventh century. At the time, early Muslims were debating the best way to audibly announce the time for prayer so people would know when to gather at the mosque. – From an article written by Rose Aslan, Assistant Professor of Religion, California Lutheran University. Allah Says (what means): "Say: Who has forbidden the adornment of Allah which He has brought forth for His bondmen, and the good things of His providing? Say: Such, on the Day of Resurrection, will be only for those who believed during the life of the world. Thus do We detail Our revelations for people who have knowledge." [Qur'an 7: 32] Allah Says (what means): “Say: Who has forbidden the adornment of Allah which He has brought forth for His bondmen, and the good things of His providing? Say: Such, on the Day of Resurrection, will be only for those who believed during the life of the world. Thus do We detail Our revelations for people who have knowledge.” [Quran 7: 32] The book made many references to “corrupted western values” that corrupts many Muslims nowadays. Some of them are right, but the author referenced it so many times it almost funny and made me laugh and think “Is he obsessed with Western people?”. I mean, not every so-called Western values are bad, right? I admire their independence, hard-working, and appreciation of individuality. The author wrote it in a way that if you are an alien from another planet, you’ll think Western values are complete evil. However, if someone from the Western world made a praise about Islam, he will referenced it immediately. That’s why I said it’s almost funny.A magnificent example of Prophet’s patience is found in the narration by Nu‘man ibn Basheer (RA) : “Abu Bakr (RA) came and sought permission to enter the Prophet’s house. He heard ‘A’ishah (RA) raising her voice over that of the Prophet’s. After being permitted, he entered, got hold of her, and said: O daughter of Umm Rooman, why are you raising your voice over that of the Messenger of Allah? The Prophet (SAW) intervened and prevented him from hitting his daughter. When Abu Bakr (RA) left, the Prophet (SAW) consoled her and said: Did you see how I saved you from him? After a while, Abu Bakr (RA) returned, sought permission to enter, and this time he saw the Prophet (RA) joking and laughing with ‘A’ishah (RA). Abu Bakr (RA) said: O Messenger of Allah, allow me to be part of your peace, just as you have allowed me to be part of your conflict.” [Related by Ahmed, graded as (hasan) good] And enjoin on one another goodness towards women; verily they are married to you: you have no power over them at all unless they come in for a flagrantly filthy action; but if they are devoted to you, then seek no way against them. And verily, you have rights over your women and your women have rights over you” In his social relationships with all people, the Muslim is well-m The Muslim, as Islam meant him to be, is a unique and remarkable person in his attitude, conduct and relationships with others at all levels. He treats them well by being friendly with them, humble, gentle of speech and avoiding offence. He likes others and is liked by them. He tries to follow the example of the Prophet as he was the best of people in his attitude towards others. He said: “Nothing will weigh more heavily in the Balance of the believing slave on the Day of Resurrection than a good attitude towards others.” [At-Tirmithi] In his social relationships with all people, the Muslim is well-mannered, civil and noble, characterized by the attitudes which Islam encourages.