You deserve someone who will hold your heart through your hard days—someone who won’t judge you through it. Someone who will understand that it’s okay to not be yourself all of the time. Someone who will still care about you even if time goes by and you haven’t reached out to them. You deserve someone who will still reach out to you even when you’ve been distant. They will know you’re going through a hard time, but they will still be there whenever you are ready. You deserve to be transparent without being pushed away. If you haven’t found the people you need yet, hold on, because you will. If you have found the people you can’t live without, hold onto them and remind them you love them. There will be people who come into your life that disturb it. Sometimes, in the most miraculous way. Other times, in the most devastating way. Maybe someone has come into your life who helped tear down your walls just to leave you alone to build them up again. Maybe someone has come into your life who changed you in the best way and the worst way all at once. Maybe someone came in and left, leaving you losing faith in relationships and people all together. Maybe you are worn out and so close to giving up on relationships even though you don’t want to. Maybe you aren’t ready to let go of someone even though you know it is time to. You deserve to wholeheartedly love yourself and your life. You deserve to break free from your past and the hurt it has held you in for too long. You deserve to find whole healing and full freedom from any darkness that tries to take your light. You deserve to finally find the peace your soul has been searching for. Even if you don’t feel like you matter to everyone, you matter to someone and that is important to remember.

It’s okay to feel confused. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to worry about what others are thinking. It’s okay to take your time. It’s okay to step away from the beliefs you’ve been told to believe. It’s okay to be figuring out what you believe. Through the process you are discovering the truth of who you are. Allow the process to flow as it is flowing. Open up when you are ready to open up. Surrender to who you are. Trust in who you are.

All That You Deserve

Pain can lead to vulnerability. Please don’t hold onto unsafe people in your healing seasons because you think they will help you escape from your pain. Safe people are honest. Safe people don’t distance you from the people who care about you. You have to trust the instincts within you telling you right from wrong. You have to listen to the ones who know you the best. You have to remember that someone who wants the best for you won’t take advantage of you in any way. Unsafe people will say anything to make you believe something they want you to believe so that they can find pleasure. They sugarcoat any detail they want to even if it is far from the truth so that they feel good. Please, if you let someone in who took advantage of you, don’t beat yourself up. You were doing the best you could to get through. You were hurting and holding onto any hope you could. Forgive yourself. If you are currently in a situation where you think someone might be taking advantage of you, don’t ignore the red flags. Open up to someone safe and don’t feel embarrassed. You are strong enough to get through, no matter how deep into it you are. You deserve better.

Look inside yourself. Ask yourself what you want and need. Ask yourself why you might be feeling what you’re feeling and remind yourself that it’s okay if you don’t know why. Know that you can move on from anything even if you don’t feel ready to. Know that it’s okay to not move on right away. Know that it’s okay to have no idea what to do. Look inside yourself, you can always find the answers you need. It doesn’t have to feel completely right, right away. Sit in the silence of your own presence. Breathe deeply. Start with gratitude if you don’t know where to start. Trust that you are being guided.

More than anything, I just hope you don’t give up on yourself. I hope you don’t give up on the dreams you know you are capable of. I hope you don’t give up on the future you are excited to live with someone who is incredibly good to you. I hope you know you will find someone who is incredibly good to you if you haven’t yet. I hope you know it’s not too late to find that someone. It’s never too late to start over because sometimes starting over is the best decision we’ll ever make for ourselves. You deserve to be held by hands that are pure and kind. I hope you’re proud of the person you are because you are someone no one could ever be. Salah satu buku self-healing dari Thought Catalog. Berisi afirmasi-afirmasi positif untuk diri. Berupa paragraf-paragraf singkat namun bisa terasa mengena. Bisa dibaca sekali duduk dan aku rasa bisa dibaca berulang sesuai kebutuhan.

You don’t always have to explain yourself. It is not your job to make people understand your heart. You can pull the dreams out of the box you’ve held them in and let them soar. You can be whatever you dream of being. You can breathe and be held by the comfort of your breathing. You can do nothing if everything feels like too much.It is okay to need a break from any kind of relationship in your life. Sometimes souls need to breathe on their own for a little while so that when they catch their breath again, and hopefully take time to sort themselves out on their own, they can love more deeply when the time to connect again comes—if it is meant to. You will know if you are meant to connect again. Even though there are people who don’t stay in your life forever, maybe they made your life beautiful in some way, and that is important to remember. Those of us who touch darkness and persevere through it are the ones who experience more light and goodness in this life. Some of us choose to not let what happens to us victimize us, but instead, change our corners of the world in any positive way we can. We are the changemakers they talk about. Sometimes all you can do is breathe and tell yourself to let it go and those two seconds change everything. You won’t find the happiness you are looking for by being so hard on yourself. Negative thoughts only lead to negative places. Positive thoughts lead to action and action leads to change. Even if you don’t know if what you want to happen can happen, breathe life into it. Use the power of your mind and your thinking to bring it to life. The Universe responds positively to positive energy.

So you hold it all in until your soul can’t hold it any longer. Maybe feelings you don’t want to feel surround you and being awake is exhausting. Maybe no one knows what you are feeling because you don’t have the energy to explain yourself. Maybe you don’t even know how to put words to what you’re going through, and that is so frustrating. Maybe you tell yourself you’re overreacting. You’re not overreacting—you’re going through something difficult.You are someone no one else is and that is your power. You are someone everyone should treat with nothing but goodness—if they don’t, they are not worthy of you. Never forget life is precious. Please don’t take your breath for granted. Life is long yet life is short. Tell them you love them. Make memories that fill your soul with joy. Take that leap of faith. Keep going. Hold each other tight. Fight for yourself and know that your peace is more important than anything else. If you are loving someone through their grief, remember that having nothing to say is okay. Remember to trust that your spirit will guide you when you are speechless. Remember that just being there for them and holding them when they need to be held is powerful. Remember that it is okay to feel deep sadness, too. It’s okay to cry with them. It’s okay to need other people’s support. It’s okay to need to be held through it too. Giving all of your compassion and care to someone is draining. Be there for yourself, too. You get through it the best you can together and in the end, it brings you closer together. It is not about feeling better right away. It is not about proving to other people that you are trying your best to feel better. You are trying your best to feel better and your recognition is the only recognition that matters. You do not have anything to prove to anyone. You do not need to rush your process of finding freedom. The thoughts that are holding your heart tight are just thoughts. They feel so powerful but they are not. They feel so in control but they are not. Once your soul has held unexplainable darkness, the world makes it difficult to believe you belong in it. There is nothing more lonely than being around everybody but feeling like nobody can relate to what you experience internally. You are not alone in that feeling. So you hold it all in until your soul can’t hold it any longer. Please, if you feel like you can’t hold it any longer—be gentle with the way you speak to yourself and reach out to someone. Those thoughts that you feel are controlling you—tell them to someone. Someone wants to hear you. You deserve to be heard. You are not any less than someone you think has it more together than you. You deserve to feel free. But, one of the best, most life-changing things you can learn is to be alone. To love your own presence. To not need another human to make you feel better. Once you learn to love and take care of yourself, you can do anything. You can change your life. You can live your life in a way that doesn’t fill your soul with regrets. You can go to bed every evening and be proud of something that you did that day, even if it feels small.