I use hand, crop or wooden spatula. Besides being a necessary discipline I do so enjoy it. There’s something about the feeling of power when spanking a naughty girly husband. 4 Clitty control and feminisation For us, it is this…we are loving a couple that respects each other and have discussed and split up various household duties. We make financial and parenting decisions together. I don’t want or intend to be my wife’s slave and she doesn’t want a “whipped”, emasculated man as her lover and partner. Quite the contrary actually. She likens it to having a well-behaved pitbull at her feet, yet one ready to protect at any moment.

How open are you about the FLR aspect of your relationship? Do your friends and family know? If not, how do you think they would react? If so, how did they react? What’s the biggest challenge you face being in an flr relationship, or what do you struggle with the most? Oh, my poor baby. I thought the men were a little gruff, but the girls said you looked adorable in your jammies. They both gave you big, supportive hugs, didn’t they?” Second, most have the physical capacity to resist anything they truly don’t want. The ability to physically resist places a hard limit on the extent to which a disciplinary spanking session can be literally non-consensual, even if a husband wants it to feel that way in the moment. Once your man has accepted your chastity control, and submitted to your spankings, a new opportunity for growth, obedience, and happiness awaits both partners. You can directly influence your man's way of thinking by applying relaxed, hypnotic like situations, combined with immobility and repetitive spanking. You can target specific behavior, or general attitude, by repeating a simple, memorable phrase as you apply the technique. Continue with as little interruption or deviation as possible, as far past his comfort level as possible, and you should observe a direct conditioned response to your training. For best results, reinforce your lesson by multiple sessions. This is a strong method for performance improvement, self improvement, behavior modification, and emotional release. It can also be a powerful tool for stress reduction, both in the mind of your man and on your relationship as a whole. You need not use this method to correct behavior, or to indoctrinate, as it is just as effective in teaching positives as it is negatives. This is not brainwashing, or some holywood version of mind control, so don't expect your man to become mindless. You can expect him to reflect deeply about himself, examine his own goals and motivations, and to begin to change his own mind about his actions or attitudes.

What??? I tried getting up, but my wife was having non of that & no trouble holding me in place (I’m 5’10” 165lbs. & she’s 6’2″ 190lbs.).

The Johnsons and the Millers are neighbors in our age group—empty nesters with kids out building families of their own. Marge, Evelyn and I see, or at least talk to, each other almost every day, and the men frequently golf together when the weather allows. The six of us like to gather every week or two, especially in the summer when we can cook and eat outside. Big relationship problems are seldom simple and one-dimensional. The core issue often is important, is real, and does need to be dealt with. But, that core issue often is bound up with a whole bunch of peripheral issues, including how we communicate about the problem to our partner and also to ourselves.I’m not being facetious. I can think of a dozen times that I’ve been convinced of the righteousness of my own position, right up until the moment when she puts me over her knee and explains her view, again, in short, emphatic sentences and rhetorical questions, punctuated by paddle swats. Let me know in the comments about the punishments you receive from your mistress or if you’re a mistress, what you use.

For the uninitiated, ‘maintenance spanking’ might sound like a bit of work around the house, but dear ones, it’s more akin to the upkeep of the dynamics in your love nest. Unlike other forms of impact play that are tied to misbehaviour, discipline, or sensual foreplay, maintenance spanking is a scheduled event; a routine, if you will, that serves to reinforce roles, remind of obligations, and let’s be honest, it can be rather titillating. Maintenance Spanking Why use Maintenance Spanking? I gravitate toward strong women. I grew up in a matriarchy and married into a matriarchy. In my bouts of therapy, I’ve always gone on and on about my mother’s power. Besides the obvious (role reversal), what are some of the key differences you see between the FLR dynamic and the traditional dynamic of domestic discipline? That’s close to what you said. Your actual outburst was ruder. But that aside, were those two claims true? Were you not acting childish sassing me? And were you managing your drinking within the limits I established?” Both wives are considering ways to introduce domestic discipline into their own marriages. Since they are two intelligent, strong-willed women, I’m betting Sam and Bill—both average adult males—have little chance of maintaining their un-spanked status quo through the summer.

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The plain fact is, many men in these relationships want it to feel like discipline is imposed, i.e., that it’s going to happen whether they like it or not. She leads me to the woodshed, to mete out very real punishment whenever I get out of line or fail to do something I set out to do (#RealAccountability). For many men, that’s the fantasy. Yet, they recognize that for important (and beneficial) reasons, the fantasy of fully imposed discipline is, and likely always will be, exactly that. A fantasy. An illusion.

We talked for the next couple of hours and agreed I would never spank her again under any circumstances, but if she felt I needed it I would get it. That eventually led to a spanking on the first Saturday night of each month for the past many many years for my “transgressions” in the previous month. If I do something that particularly pisses her off, I can bet on getting one in between. That usually happens about once or twice a year. (OK, the last time was this morning, which is what prompted me to write this) I held the door for Susan, reeling from the bomb she’d dropped on me, sending what I thought was our happy life together up in smoke.

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I delivered ten brisk, moderate spanks to his bare bottom. I know my favorite paddle delivers a surprising sting when applied to naked flesh. So, even with moderate effort on my part, ten swats cannot be fun for my husband. Because this article covers some controversial ground, I want to begin with an unequivocal statement that mutual consent is at the core of any healthy intimate relationship. Basically, we’re consenting to her using her best judgment about the “why, when, and how” issues, particularly the “why.” First of all, I hate it when my wife spanks me, but it”s part of our relationship. I’ll tell you how we first got into it, how she does it, and then I’ll confess to a little white lie that she has no clue about. (if she did, I’d have a permanently red butt) Yes, that’s right. And you know what? I’ve been waiting for this day for a long time. Can you even begin to imagine how much pleasure it will give me to see you brace yourself for the next blow? To see your ass turn red as fire??”