Another way to explore this problem of disconnect is for the man to take the 30-day challenge where he does not ejaculate. During penetrative sex, he slows down, focusing on how the woman responds. Your partner will gain a better understanding of what creates greater levels of arousal.” No two people are built the same, and it helps to have compatible body parts. For some women, men of modest size may be a perfect fit. It’s a matter of physiology and personal preference. But perfect-fitting penetration isn’t the only path to satisfying sex. Focus on foreplay. Concentrate on kissing, cooing, caressing -- the full panoply of sexual pleasure giving. you’ve ever read the popular Christian marriage books and they’ve sat wrong and you felt more hopeless afterward, like you were broken Esposito, K. et al. “Mediterranean Diet Improves Sexual Function in Women with Metabolic Syndrome,” International Journal of Impotence Research (2007) 19:486. Pelvic floor exercise for women: To identify the correct muscles, squeeze the ones you use to stop urine flow. Then sit or lie with knees slightly apart and slowly tighten these muscles as hard as you can. Hold for 10 seconds then relax. Repeat five times daily.

Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, and Joanna Sawatsky are powerfully combining Scripture and science to point out some naked emperors within evangelical teaching as well as reveal the often missing perspectives of Christian wives. They use high quality data to show the fruits of widely accepted, extra-biblical messages and continuously balance against Christ's example for how we are to treat one another. This is a comprehensive review of bestselling Christian literature that is likely to cause quite a stir, and God-willing a shaking as they wrestle with: How having more sex can improve your health, mood and even your career Problem: We have sex less often

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Men are called to be the men that Jesus sees them as and can empower them to be, not helpless wimps Try to spend at least two days a week enjoying your own body. This will improve your sex life, because your partner is not a mind reader. When you know exactly how you like to be touched, you can better communicate your desires to your partner. 6. Have an Orgasm Before Penetration Most men suffer from erection problems at some point in their lives, but getting older can make it more difficult to get and sustain an erection on a regular basis. If you can exercise hard enough to work up a light sweat without triggering symptoms, you should be safe to have sex.

A good sex life—at any age—involves a lot more than just sex. It's also about intimacy and touch, things anyone can benefit from. Even if you have health problems or physical disabilities, you can engage in intimate acts and benefit from closeness with another person.Look ahead. As you age, try to let go of expectations for your sex life. Do your best to avoid dwelling on how things are different. If you enjoyed an active sex life in your younger years, there's no reason to slow down with age, unless you want to. A positive attitude and open mind can go a long way toward improving your sex life as you age. One of the major marketing points of this book is the massive survey the authors did on women's experiences and then discussed here. I tended to have mixed feelings about the insights drawn from the survey, however. While there are many revealing and true points that Gregoire & co. make from the survey, I at times had questions about their methodology and framing. There's a lot of correlation/causation questions that aren't really explored in this book. Gregoire & co. often argue that bad biblical teachings have caused dysfunctional sexual habits. But they don't always prove causation. And sometimes they seem to fall prey to the ecological fallacy, arguing that because something is true for the group as a whole, that means it's true for each individual in that group. I found this to be especially the case in their discussion on gender roles in marriage, and would have liked to see more careful analysis that investigated if what was true for each large group of people was also true for each sub-group within that larger group. Their framing also seemed a bit biased at times. At one point, they also claim that 51.3% constitutes "most of the women in this survey" (perhaps on a technicality? But "half" would really be a more accurate framing).

I didn’t realise until I got married just how deeply I had absorbed the pervasive evangelical teachings about sex and marriage. The obligation sex message and the teachings around lust in particular have caused so much hurt for me and my marriage, so I was thrilled to hear that Sheila, Rebecca and Joanna were writing The Great Sex Rescue to help challenge these teachings in a big way! Research suggests that better communication is key to better sex—and no, we don't necessarily mean dirty talk. Communicating what you like and don't like can be instructional and informative, no matter how much you think you already know each other's bodies. If they're doing something you like, say so rather than relying onambiguous gestures or noises. And if it's something you're not into, communicate that or guide them in a new direction. Want to try a different angle? Suggest one. If simultaneous orgasm is your goal and you're close to climaxing, don't be mum about it. 2. Give Them a Confidence BoostWhen over-50s magazine Saga surveyed their readers about their changing sex lives, most (around 85%) admitted they made love less frequently now than they did in their 20s and 30s. But don’t despair – the research also revealed older couples weren’t skipping sex completely. Almost half of those questioned said they did still manage sex at least once a week.

Right. The mouth. Useful for kissing and other orally administered forms of arousal (none of which should be underestimated), it’s also a tool for communication. Try it. Tell them what you want. Ask them what they like. Shoot for trust and openness. Sexuality necessarily takes on a broader definition as we age. Try to open up to the idea that sex can mean many things, and that closeness with a partner can be expressed in many ways. Interesting book, one of a group of books I'm reading because I know younger Christians find these books relevant and meaningful and I'd like to be knowledgeable. This book is in reaction to books like "Love and Respect", "Sheet Music", "His Needs, Her Needs", etc. which focused on women being available to their husbands to help them not fall into sexual sin. This book wants women and men to understand that sex is about more than that, should be pleasurable for and desired by both partners, and if that isn't the case, here are some tips..... :) The fall in hormone levels for men and women once they pass 50 can result in a natural decline in sex drive. But other emotional and health factors can also play a big part.

Kruger, T.H.C. et al. “Prolactinergic and Dopaminergic Mechanisms Underlying Sexual Arousal and Orgasm In Humans,” World Journal of Urology (2005) 23:130.