The addicting may struggle financially. They hurt their body/brain. They lose relationships or may face legal problems. At the very least they will potentially feel guilt and shame, regret and remorse. These things in turn cause more pain. So they take more heroin. The cycle continues.

Nero-chemical addiction from validation, attention, porn/sexual activity and fulfilling traditional gender roles I started on my NoFap journey just over 5 years ago, and I remember my initial thinking was "I'll quit porn, but keep my fetishes - because they're fun." This included femdom and findom, among others...You won’t find many cougars in this den. Even if the findom is past her early twenties, she’ll still claim to be a gorgeous young thing while accusing the pay pig of being nothing but a washed-up jerk. Older findoms are the exception, not the rule. This is mainly practiced by young women who connect with their guys through webcams, making it difficult to lie about one’s age. Master(bator)s of the universe are in evidence, yet never in control. Money slaves aren’t found only among working class males, loners, or those with low self-esteem. Many findom fans are wealthy and successful. Though they may hold themselves in high regard, these men are erotically stimulated when a woman tells them how useless and pathetic they are. Have I continued engaging in findom after I noticed it was causing me harm, or even found it even more tempting then? This addiction feels like a darkness in me that slowly consumes me and changes me as person and I hate it.

Not chipped in on an evening with friends. Unable to buy presents. Changing your grocery list to less expensive options. I've been dealing with findom for years, so I feel your pain. It really is different from regular porn addiction, so don't be surprised if people here don't entirely understand what you're going through. Findom is unique in that you're dealing with a person (a findom) who profits from your self-hatred; someone who is attempting to condition you to get off on destroying yourself. Under normal conditions, you would hate someone like this. Notice exactly what you are doing. You're paying someone for the rush of feeling powerless. The irony is, that it's really a rush from how much power you have over them.. They have no power except what you give them. A findom is a cross between a beggar and a prostitute. Nothing more. Depression/addiction encouragement cycle. The fetishisation of problems to deal with them which in turn create more depression and problems.

Most Findoms are in it purely for the money. They want a lifestyle of lying around in their bedroom and watching money arrive on their Smartphone. Avoid environments where you might encounter financial domination. If you find yourself going online and engaging in fin dom when you should be doing work or studying for school, try to complete all your internet-based tasks in a public setting or around a friend or family member in an open area of your home. To the fellow who sexually responds to a cruel, greedy woman, this is exactly what he needs. He may have a wife and kids who love and depend on him — but producing for a bratty, demanding, unobtainable woman is what drives him. Sisterhood is powerful. Findoms are enormously supportive of one another, willing to share tips or compare “pay pigs.” These like-minded young ladies network and share stories about big pay-offs from “human wallets”…or others who’ve disappointed or disappeared on them.

For those that want a dominant will pose as a “therapist” to roleplay giving help but actually just making the “addict” give more. For example :- https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12834016/#:~:text=Nevertheless%2C%20several%20neurotransmitters%20and%20neuropeptides,and%20opioid%20peptides%20reduce%20it.It’s all about her. Financial subs don’t expect to have sex with their “goddess.” Instead he promises to be in a findom’s life strictly for her profit and pleasure. This is never a two-way street.

Have I neglected my responsibilities at work, as a family member or friend, or at school due to engaging in findom? I feel trapped, I feel lost, I honestly am close to giving up with even trying to quit, it feels impossible. I actually stopped for about 2 months before this but as usual I eventually relapsed again. Social media is well known to use this process. When you post something, whether it be a picture, a joke or anything else, the act of getting likes, reactions and shares feels good. You feel connected to other people. You feel validated, supported and loved.One of the main tools a domme will use for reeling in a sub is masturbation. In fin dom, the submissive men allow the dommes to tell them when they can and cannot come. Beating off becomes a privilege that is often only granted after tribute is paid—even then, sometimes it's denied. Additionally, the more dopamine you produce and get, the more “used” to its release you get. So whilst the first rush from “likes” is very intense, it can feel less so over time. Based on my experience and observations within, I think the main mechanisms by which people become addicted to and are harmed by it are :- Deleted chats or browsing history, kept my phone away from my partner, made excuses for expenses or not having money.