Each time a woman is asked to make copies, get coffee and take notes during staff meetings this stereotype is perpetuated. I gleaned many, many tips from the book (my poor library copy was tabbed to pieces), mostly subtle things that I can easily put into action--indeed, I already have tried out many of these action items. I almost didn't make the purchase because I pretty much hate the color pink (it's been forced on me all my life) and I didn't like the title. You need to define what you have to offer to another person and what you need/want from the other person. The author's main theme is, "Quit being a girl," by which she means to toot your own horn and stand up for yourself because high quality work alone won't get you noticed and promoted.

Like games, the business has winners and losers, so when women ignore the game, they unknowingly create an environment in which they lose. There's some moderately useful gender-blind advice for how to handle sticky situations at work (conflict resolution, discussing promotions, not unduly taking blame, etc. I'm not sure that I 100% agree with this, but I do know that being liked isn't necessarily the best method of achieving what you want at the risk of everything else. I would absolutely listen to this again because its chalked full of tips and advice that apply to so many different situations a woman finds herself in at work. Maybe this book and this attitude works in some corporations, but I believe you can be a successful woman without completely erasing your feminine personality to act more like a man.Unfortunately, smiling can make women less authoritative and even distort the message they wish to convey. From one sentence to the next, I alternated between feeling like I learned something noteworthy and just thinking she was crazy and very anti-women. It is important to me that she knows she is smart and that her ideas and thoughts matter just as much as the next person's.

Women who style themselves in a feminine way are often viewed in a different, less professional way.It sounds a bit cold-hearted (especially to someone who seems to have this crazy need to help everyone everytime), but "avoid the inclination to want to solve the problem for them. This is important because it shows how she can view situations objectively-which adds to her credibility.

Nearly all the advice comes back to: stop acting like a coy little girl; put on your big girl panties and step up to the plate. But if you want to stand out and make something of yourself, you need to learn how to network and capitalize on these chance encounters. Nobody will want to talk to you, but if you namedrop/refer to others/get an introduction, getting information/what you want becomes much easier. I think this was written before the female empowerment movement, because the content about women supporting women is on the low end.Women are not taught to defend ourselves or get angry when someone is disrespectful to us, teaching us to be tolerant of people who treat us like crap. Don’t bring baked goods to the office because you will be taken less seriously for showing your nurturing side.

I always knew that I was a typical girl in finding it difficult to negotiate money, but I thought that was it.

I was reflecting on the why of this interest and I draw as conclusion that it is to fill in the curiosity I have to understand what makes people feel they belong and why it is that still a struggle in the world we live today. Yet I've always held onto this starry-eyed idea that we should be able to create lives for ourselves that honor who we are and what we value. Women often smile when they are delivering a serious message, criticizing a person, and in situations of potential conflict. The title contains a clue that 101 mistakes cannot be fixed within one book so the author wisely points them out and then refers the reader to another more specific book to help with a particular or group of particular mistakes. For a start she has you take a 49 question quiz, which can determine which of the eight areas are your strong and weak points.