DH you’re tired a lot at the moment even after a full nights sleep - do you think you should see the GP? If, for example, your mood hoover continues to make negative comments during or after a team brief, this allows an inroad for a more focused but still informal conversation at a 1-2-1 about this and what’s behind it – try asking ‘why do they feel like this’ and ‘what impact do they think this has on those around them?

I thought we might be able to explore feelings and behaviour through his love of all things hoovers. Legitimate grievances or concerns are fine, but mood hoovers constantly moan to whoever will listen.

Mood hoovers can have a significant effect on your workforce as they drag other people down with them. In fact, there’s a strong possibility that you developed your people-pleasing skills as an adaptive way to appease them. From a subjective, personal point of view, I think there are two ways of dealing with such people and in turn, such situations; you can both ignore it and just go with the interaction, or you can challenge it.

Learn about positive psychology (check out our free growth mindset toolkit https://planetpositivechange. You can recruit people with a positive mindset – who then feel let down if they feel they were sold an opportunity which isn’t the reality,’ Helen explains.It's easy to take negative comments or behaviours personally, especially if you’re a people pleaser. Without wishing to sound like a spiritual guru, the slope to becoming a mood hoover is a slippery one. Another preventative measure at recruitment stage is to be clear about the role and not over-inflate expectations. If it’s too late to do either of the above, then ‘mood hoover’ behaviour will require swift intervention from their line manager. Everybody has bad days, or even bad periods, but mood hoovers are easily identifiable by their continued lack of enthusiasm, motivation and positivity.

Powerful, plaintive expression of the fathomless sorrow of our suffering cetaceans and their depthless home, together with the indescribable loveliness of their distant blue-black realm. Such men if they go to sessions (which they often do not anyway) will try to manipulate the counsellor and get that person on his side. So, I started to learn how to be a trainer and continued io develop and learn and enjoy having a positive impact in people’s lives . Behaviour breeds behaviour…having a mood hover in your team can be very detrimental to the morale and performance of the team overall.

Then talk to him and suggest couples counselling or give him an ultimatum or whatever you have decided.