Sex For Dummies (For Dummies: Psychology & Self Help)

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We wouldn’t be on this planet if it wasn’t for sex. Although sex is a part of the human lifecycle, many people still find it taboo to discuss. This can cause a lot of confusion and questions. The hand is certainly the most popular instrument used by men for masturbation: using the hand to rub the penis, usually to orgasm. Other alternatives include rubbing against the bedsheets, putting your penis inside a specially made, life-size synthetic doll, or using a special device that simulates a vagina.

Because of Cowper’s fluid, a man may deposit sperm inside a woman’s vagina before he has an orgasm. That’s why the pullout, or withdrawal, method does not work as a means of preventing pregnancy. bullet You send sexual messages with your body language, from the way you walk to the angle you hold your head. This means that everyone should agree on what they are comfortable with at the beginning of the activity. If someone changes their mind or decides that they want to stop, it is very important that that person is able to say this and that it is respected. This ensures that it is a pleasurable experience for all involved. What are the different types of sex?In the end, you let trial and error become the teacher of last resort. And when that happens, not unexpectedly, you can often make serious mistakes — such as becoming pregnant when you don’t intend to be, or catching a sexually transmitted disease, or, at the very least, having a less-than-satisfactory sex life, or going through your entire life never having terrific sex. You can have sex many different ways, and yet the outcome of sex, the satisfaction that comes from having an orgasm, is the goal of each of them. (Of course, if your only aim is to make a baby, then the pleasurable aspects become secondary.) Part of the mystery of sex is why so many paths lead to this one end. Chapters 9, 10, 13, and 14 cover different ways you can achieve orgasms. So Why Do We Have It? Unlike a man, who continually makes sperm (more than 26 trillion a year!), a woman has all her eggs already inside her at birth. These eggs — about 200,000 of them — reside in a woman’s two ovaries (see Figure 1-1). About every 28 days, a fluid-filled sac in the ovary, called a follicle, releases one of the eggs. When a follicle releases an egg, many women feel a dull ache, known as mittelschmerz, in the area around the ovary. Tip bullet What parts of me does this person activate? My head? My heart? My loins? Two out of three? One out of three?

Some people may experience symptoms including increased, malodorous, colored vaginal discharge, vulvar pain and itchiness, and/or pain with urination or sexual intercourse (17) Sex is easy, but great sex takes some preparation. Here are some hints of what you can do to get you and your partner ready: bullet Excitement Phase: The Excitement Phase arises when the genitals experience vasocongestion, which is a swelling caused by an increase in blood filling the tissues. To help you find information that you’re looking for, this book is divided into five parts. Each part covers a particular aspect on sex and contains chapters relating to that part. Part I: Getting Ready for Sex Maybe you’re in a long-distance relationship and want to feel more connected to your partner or you want to try a new form of foreplay with your significant other. Or perhaps you’re looking to mix up your flirting game with a sexy call to a new crush. No matter the circumstances, this expert advice can help you navigate a phone sex session with confidence. How do you even start having phone sex?The reason that sex therapists such as myself exist is due in great part to Dr. William Masters and Dr. Virginia Johnson, who studied the sexual response cycle in the late 1950s and early 1960s. Most young people find it hard to believe that their parents still have sex, no less their grandparents, but it’s true. Our looks may change, even our desires, but sex is an integral part of our humanity, and it remains so throughout our lives. Are You Ready to Get Busy? Figuring out how to have phone sex can lead to extremely hot results, but even the best dirty talk can also feel awkward sometimes (which, honestly, adds to the charm). Whether you’re stoked to try it for the first time, you’ve dabbled in the art, or you’re practically a virtual sex pro, it’s normal to have some questions: How do you get your partner on board? What do you actually say? Can you just…hang up when it’s over? Navigating the practical aspects of smutty conversations might feel intimidating, but don’t worry: Experimentation is what makes this fun. Fertilization occurs when the chromosomes and genes from both the sperm and the egg combine to form one single cell, called a zygote. As a result, instead of an identical copy of one of the parents (a clone), fertilization creates a unique individual that shares features of both parents. So now you know the reason you have your father’s nose and your mother’s feet: At least once in their lives, your parents mingled their genetic material. This book is organized so you can go wherever you want to find complete information. Want to know about genital warts, for example? Head to Chap-ter 19. If you’re interested in oral sex, go to Chapter 13 for that. You can use the table of contents to find broad categories of information or the index to look up more specific things.

The sensations vibrators offer can become addictive. No man, without a vibrator in hand, can achieve the same level of sensation that a vibrator can. If you plan on having sex with a man sometime in the future, then don’t make a habit out of using only a vibrator to have your orgasms. bullet If something goes wrong and neither one of us has an orgasm, will I ever want to see this person again? Important information is highlighted with little pictures, called icons, lurking in the margins. Here’s what the ones used in this book signify: TipYeah, you might think this is just the same routine missionary posish, but it's really not. The best thing about this missionary twist: you're in control. With you lying on the rug/chaise longue, sun lounger (you do you), ask them to get on all fours above you. Don't let them come down too low because you're gonna raise your pelvis up to meet them. Tell them to stay put as you start moving up and down. They'll probably find that hard because it's going to feel gooood, but urge them to resist. It'll be worth resisting.